Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Of Feel Good Factors!

I write this post snatching a minute or two from conference calls and the extra 30 mins that suddenly fell in my lap due to a cancelled meeting :)

Today is one of those days where the work pile is sky high and yet I would love to pause and rest. But since that is not possible, I try the second best thing. I dress up! On days when I want a feel good factor, I'd wear my fav clothes, put on extra makeup and preen. On the other days, I wear a bright lipstick :)

Picture this, I am in sweats, my hair is on top of my head in a messy bun and my lips are a bright cheery red. While I have lost my fear of red now, thanks to my wonderful beauty blogger buddies.. i still have the old habit of wearing it around the house when alone. Instant pick me up for me.

Another feel good factor is music. For the longest time, I only listened to old hindi songs. Now, I listen to the new ones all the time. I am also mildly obsessed with relaxation music and listen to a lot of instrumental stuff. Brian Silas is my all time favourite.

Writing this post, I realised that while these pick me ups work, the effect is not long lasting. What ultimately pulls you out of the dumps is your own will to get out of it. Accepting the cause of misery and doing everything you can to get out of it is the only thing that will ultimately help. Even if it takes longer than you like, you have to keep trying....

Tuesday, August 06, 2013

Men & Gentlemen

My office has two strings of cubicles separated by a narrow walkway. I call it narrow because it allows only one person to walk at a single time. So if there are two people walking in opposite directions, one will have to step aside to let them pass. I always realise that this aisle brings out the Gentleman in people.

The men would invariably step aside for the women to pass. On several occasions, when I have stepped aside for a male colleague to go first, they have insisted that I go first. Once, one of them even said, "Oh no. Not at all. You first". I thought such old world mannerism were a passe today. Sometimes, I find it charming :) What about you? But that said, if men were to revert to standing everytime a woman entered the room or opening doors and holding them all the time, I'd find it irritating. Talk about contrasts eh!

And then there are those who in their tearing hurry, don't even bother to thank the person who waited or just smile to acknowledge. "There have been times when I hold the door open for myself and a guy jumps in", said a colleague. These are definitely the guys. I doubt they will ever be equated to the status of Gentlemen.